Take Care of Yourself

As new moms, often we forget to take care of ourselves. We work hard to meet the needs of our family and forget that we too have our own needs, even if we don’t recognize them anymore. It isn’t uncommon for women to withdraw after giving birth, sinking into our routines. Many mothers also have a not-so-loving inner voice that frequently tell them they aren’t a good enough mother, aren’t doing enough, don’t look good enough, or a host of other negative thoughts. This can be mentally and emotionally exhausting, leaving you feel as if you never have time for rest or pleasure because there is always something more you must do or do better.

Love Yourself

This often comes down to nothing more than practice. We need to learn to deliberately catch ourselves speaking to ourselves in a way we would never talk to our friends or loved ones. Rather, try to replace those thoughts with something more affirming. Nurture your mind. Create a self-fulfilling prophesy of joy!

What might you say to someone in your shoes? What would you say to your friend, or a heart-broken child? Say those things to yourself, or try some of these:

  • I am loved.
  • I am the best mother I can be.
  • I deserve to nurture myself every day.
  • I am a good wife.
  • I am worth nurturing.
  • I have time to do all the things which are most necessary.
  • My life is filled with joy.
  • I am blessed.
  • I am choosing to surround myself with people who love and support me.
  • I have done my best for today.
  • I have earned my rest for tonight.
  • I have put my love into all my deeds.
  • I have used kindness in all my thoughts.
  • I have all I need to make this a great day of my life.
  • I have all the information I need to solve any challenges that come up today.
  • I am filled with gratitude for another day on this earth.
  • I am worthy.
  • My body is getting strong, slimmer and healthier every day.
  • I choose to be kind to myself.
  • I am enough.

There are many books filled with inspirations and sayings. Pick one up for yourself. Write them on your walls, in your journal, on your bathroom mirror, the corner of your computer screen, in your heart… If you haven’t been introduced to Pinterest, please go explore. Creating your own file full of your favorite affirmations is reason enough.

Share your favorite affirmations in the comments!

Food For Thought

Food for Thought

"It is much more important to know what sort of patient has a disease than what sort of disease a patient has."

Sir William Osler

Food for Thought

"Happiness is underrated and critically important to health. Seriously! Unfortunately, many people just have no idea how to be happy."

Aviva Romm

Food for Thought

"Physicians simply do not have time to be what patients want them to be: open-minded, knowledgeable teachers and caregivers who can hear and understand their needs."

Snyderman and Weil

Food for Thought #1

"They say that time changes things. But you actually have to change them yourselves."

Andy Warhol

Food for Thought

"To think is easy. To act is hard. But the hardest thing in the world is to act in accordance with your thinking."

Johann Wolfgang von Goether

Food for Thought

"Birth isn’t about avoiding one set of realities in favor of another. It’s about embracing all facets of birth--contradictory, messy, or unpleasant as some might be--as vital to the whole."

Rixa Freeze PhD

Food for Thought

"Why I appreciate being a certified nurse-midwife, as opposed to choosing another route for midwifery: I feel learning the science is vital so the art of midwifery is safe and effective."

Dr. Penny Lane, nurse-midwife

Food for Thought

"When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser."

Socrates

Food for Thought

"To accomplish great things, we must not only act but also dream; not only plan, but also believe."

Anatole France

Food for Thought

"Science and uncertainty are inseparable companions. Beware of those who are very certain about things. There are no absolute truths in biological sciences - only hypotheses... 'We need to train medical students and residents more in the art of uncertainty and less in the spirit that everything can be known or that it even needs to be known.'"

Grimes (1986)

Food for Thought

"American physicians are rewarded for doing things to patients, not for keeping them well."

Grimes, 1986

Food for Thought

"The false idol of technology. 'Having a widget screwed into one's scalp has become an American birthright.'"

Grimes, 1986

Food for Thought

"Between 1985 and 1987, a hospital instituted a successful program to reduce its cesarean rate. The rate fell from 18% to 12%, losing the hospital $1 million in revenues - no small sum in those days."

Goer & Romano, 2012, p 37

Food for Thought

"Obstetricians are much more likely to perform a cesarean when they wrongly believe the baby weighs 4000 g or more based on sonographic estimates than when the baby actually weighs this much but the obstetrician did not suspect it."

Goer & Romaro, 2012, p 35

Food for Thought

"If you play God, you will be blamed for natural disasters."

Marsden Wagner (2006)

Food for Thought

"An education isn't how much you have committed to memory, or even how much you know. It's being able to differentiate between what you know and what you don't."

Anatole France

Food for Thought #3

"Birth is not only about making babies. Birth also is about making mothers - strong, competent, capable mothers, who trust themselves and know their inner strength."

Barbara Katz Rothman PhD (1996)

Food for Thought #4

"Believe there is always, always, always a way. When you have exhausted all possibilities, remember this: you haven't."

Thomas Edison

Food for Thought #5

"All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident."

Arthur Schopenhauer

Food for Thought #2

"Yet you brought me safely from my mother’s womb and led me to trust you at my mother’s breast."

Psalm 22:9