I don’t have a cute picture with a family of safety pins, or a sign hanging from our old dog’s neck with big brother written on it, or even a pile of shoes with the addition of adorable little baby shoes… but this announcement comes with no less joy and excitement…
The Lane’s are expecting another little baby this fall.
40 and Pregnant!?!
Yes, I am! Am I fearful? Of course not! The Lord thought it fit to bless us with another child and we are very grateful. I do find it quite ironic to discover my first grey hairs and learn I am pregnant with my sixth child in the same month I turned forty.
What does my husband think of having a child at 50?
He’s awfully proud of himself to be quite frank. A house full of adorable children, always making you laugh – who wouldn’t be thrilled? Admittedly, together, we already have five grandchildren so having more little ones of our own makes us feel quite young.
What do my other children think?
Keely was surprised to find that she really was quite happy. Her only question was that she wanted to be sure Miss Kristi was going to be my midwife. “Well, of course!”
Noah thought on the news for quite awhile before he said anything, but he really loves babies. Today he commented that if he could be our live-in-nanny and not have to get his own apartment and pay bills, he’d be pretty happy. He’ll be starting college soon though, and baby will need to be with mommy for quite some time. We’re happy to keep him around though. He’s truly been the most enjoyable child.
Lyric is no longer the middle child, and now one of the “older kids.” His loss was clearly not the end of our story, with three more siblings to follow his short life.
Samuel and Simon are both quite happy. Their thoughts change daily on whether they want a brother or sister, where it should sleep, who will be the better big brother, and what it’s name should be. Simon is constantly hugging me as he says he now gets two for one!
Gus, and especially Ace, seem to be well aware. They are both increasingly protective and stuck to my leg constantly. I am sure they will both be quite surprised with the new addition.
Mr Kaiden is still a bit too young to really grasp the news, but we are all still a bit surprised. There’s a human being growing inside of me!
Are we worried about having a baby with problems at our age?
Nope. Not in the slightest. We are not having genetic testing done because it would not change our management of the pregnancy. We will love any baby that the Lord placed in our family.
Isn’t this a high risk pregnancy for you?
Only 5% of women my age are successful in becoming pregnant. Our ability to become pregnant is evidence of our health to some degree. Women my age have poorer outcomes most often because we are more likely to suffer from co-morbid disease, such as diabetes and hypertension. None of these issues are a factor for me. In fact, I have never eaten better in my life than I have in the last year, which I suspect is why we are now facing a pregnancy at 40 and 50.
Did we plan this pregnancy?
I have been asked this by a few because I think, it has become somewhat socially unacceptable to have “so many kids” or especially to be happy about having children in the fourth and fifth decade of life. I don’t think this question has thus far come from a place of judgement, but more because they identify. They too have concerns about what people will say when they announce their fifth, sixth, seventh or greater pregnancy, especially at our age.
For our family, we made the decision that healthy living was a priority, which meant avoiding hormone therapy. We also felt as if the Lord would choose to bless us or call us to another season of our lives. Admittedly, we both anticipated the latter. However, we also feel quite blessed in that we have a great marriage, happy kids, and sufficient funds to feed another child (most days). We have lived a very content life and are faithful in knowing we will enjoy each day we are given.
Will baby Lane be born at home?
Absolutely! This question actually surprises me the most.
When will I stop attending births?
When my water breaks. Historically, this has been at about 41 weeks of pregnancy. Thus far, I have worked the same day I went into labor with all five of my previous pregnancies! This time however, I don’t have to turn away clients, because we have the fabulous Miss Kristi to keep on tending to the needs of the practice.
Will baby Lane join the practice?
Absolutely. Just as all my other kids participate in the practice in one way or another, this little one will also join in the fun. We have a great deal of flexibility in our practice and we’re very family oriented. We’ve always had a bring-your-baby-to-clinic policy so expect to meet the little one next winter.
Will I be blogging about my pregnancy?
Absolutely. Expect to be a bit over-whelmed with my upcoming posts. Having not had a baby myself in a few years, and focusing so much on functional medicine as of late, it will be especially fun to dive back into all things pregnancy, birth, and babies. As well, I am eager to experience the practice as a client – and to join in the Optimizing Pregnancy classes. I get to bring my husband to work and show him all the fun we have in the practice!
Will I be sharing pictures of my baby bump?
Most certainly not, so don’t be afraid to visit! Gosh, I would love to though, I adore round, pregnant bellies.
Do we plan on having more?
My husband sort of feels challenged now to see if he can have kids into his 60’s – challenge accepted. The world really does need a few more Lane children. I mean our kids are kinda fabulous. Yeah! So stay tuned for lots more fun posts as the pregnancy advances. Please comment here on the blog!